Hello monsters, how is the love life going? smoothly, a little rough, a little in between? It has been brought to my attention that finding love is difficult at times but maintaining it is even harder. Why is that? What is it about us that makes it difficult to get along with each other, especially with someone we love, or deeply like whatever the case may be? I myself am still in the honeymoon phase of new love (oh I didn't blog about it yet, hmmm I will have to save that for another day.) As I was saying, when love is new there is not a whole lot of things that will irritate you, yet. Everything about the other person is new and exciting. You haven't heard all their stories and you are learning about them so arguments, disagreements and the like are rare. (unless you are one of those drama filled women whose life is not complete without, well drama) So lets skip ahead to the real life phase. The phase where you let down your guard, retire your representative and settle into being who you really are in front of the one you love.
Now is when all the things you loved and adored about him begin to irritate you. He actually has an opinion that doesn't agree with yours, your true feelings about sports and all things sport related begins to show, right in the midst of football season, and you no longer spend every moment discussing what you love about your love. Yup honeymoon is over. Now is when you start to find things to argue about, to fuss about, to complain about etc. Your moods are all over the place and your calling your girlfriends complaining about the guy who just last week was the best thing since sliced bread. How did you get here? Could be you don't have enough honey in your diet.
You are totally wondering what I am talking about aren't you, you should be. Girl you need to relax. Take a breath and stop picking. That simple, stop picking, stop looking for things that will bother you, stop looking for ways to sabotage your relationship, stop complaining to your girlfriends, just stop. This advice is only for the petty things that cause arguments, like what to watch on t.v., how to spend your weekend, whether or not the Bears are better then the Rams, you know the petty stuff that escalates into big things. Use your best judgement, the easiest way is to take a good look at what it is your complaining about and determine if it is detrimental to your life or your emotional, physical or spiritual well being. If its not it is probably petty.
Here is where the honey comes in. You have to remember all the things you love about the guy, all the things you love about you when your with him and then act accordingly. So before you begin your argument...er conversation coat your words in honey Honey is sweet, its smooth, it covers completely, and it is good for you. Cover everything you say and do in honey. Honey is also precious, in case you didn't know it takes thousands of bee hours to make the stuff and honey bees are endangered. I say that to say this when something is precious it is not wasted, it is used sparingly, you pick what you use it on. Therefore pick your battles. Here is what it looks like.
Instead of you arguing about all the time he spends with friends (I would much rather be with friends than hang out with someone who is always finding something to complain about. ) become someone he would rather spend time with. You don't like how he dresses when you go out, don't complain, buy him something, compliment him when he wears something you like, tell him how good he looks, etc. Honey.
Practically any behavior or action that you don't like about him, he probably has an equal number of things he doesn't like about you, the difference is he is smart enough not to complain about them, to your face.
Honey is just another word for love, love as an action. The honeymoon is not over, it can last forever if you remember to bring that same love with you on the rest of the journey. Nothing is perfect, No one is perfect but love like honey covers completely. It covers up the rough edges, it sweetens, and it is precious. A few days ago I told a close friend to love her man like she loves her son. She will never stop loving her son no matter what he does, she is patient with him, she corrects him lovingly when he is wrong, she feeds him, she plays with him, she talks with him, her devotion is unwavering. So I told her to love her man like that. Put some honey on that and your honeymoon will never end. After all, men are just children in bigger clothes.
So monsters, add some honey to your life.
You are totally wondering what I am talking about aren't you, you should be. Girl you need to relax. Take a breath and stop picking. That simple, stop picking, stop looking for things that will bother you, stop looking for ways to sabotage your relationship, stop complaining to your girlfriends, just stop. This advice is only for the petty things that cause arguments, like what to watch on t.v., how to spend your weekend, whether or not the Bears are better then the Rams, you know the petty stuff that escalates into big things. Use your best judgement, the easiest way is to take a good look at what it is your complaining about and determine if it is detrimental to your life or your emotional, physical or spiritual well being. If its not it is probably petty.
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