Butterflies and other Ailments

    Happy Monday monsters. Lets talk about bugs, specifically butterflies. You know the feeling you get when you meet someone you really like. The loopy stomach you get when he goes in for the kiss. The goosebumps you get when he looks at you, the deja vu when he opens the door. Don't be coy you know the feelings. Its what we look for in a date, what we hope we feel when we sit across from him on a first date. It is the first clue to even the most skeptical of us that something is going on. What is that something monster? Chemistry.

    I don't know about you but I never aced chemistry in school, I could not begin to recite the periodic table of elements, and I can barely mix up cleaning solutions properly, I mean seriously who actually measures that stuff? The chemistry I found

most interesting is the one that happens between you and a guy. Those tingly feelings when you hear his voice, the way you smile involuntarily when you think about him. All the gooey things that go on inside, the butterflies. No matter how cynical you are they will find you eventually. So what happens when there are none?

   What happens when you really like a guy, you are excited about a guy and then boom you meet and nothing.  It is not like you can request the butterflies to show up. Do you fake it? Do you try to force it, do you try again later, or do you walk away? I posed this question to several daters and with out fail they all say walk away. Do we put too much stock in this elusive chemistry? You could be walking away from the relationship that could take you off the market forever. Could it be your tingle response is off? Or do you only tingle for the guys who are destined to break your heart? Are your butterflies early warning signals or beacons in the darkness of dating?

 What if you do feel the tingles, the butterflies, and the loss of appetite, (kind of sounds like an illness. ) what then? What does it really signify? Is it an animal attraction, a meeting of souls, or just flu symptoms? What if you get all those things and you are still unsure that  the person is  right for you? What if you get them with someone you never would have thought yourself attracted to? What do you listen to? The phantom butterflies, or your mind? When do you follow your butterflies and when do you exterminate them?

I for one think that the butterflies, the goosebumps, the elusive chemistry is the best stuff on earth. It is the precursor to love. Who doesn't like being in love, it is a legal high. So I guess I would have to side with the daters who say to walk away if you don't feel those things. Even as I write this I am reflecting on a date I had this weekend. From the moment I saw him the butterflies have been doing the samba. Even 48 hours later I find myself deeply in like. I am high on the residual tingles. So I may not know why these ailments afflict us or what they may signify, but I plan on enjoying the ride.

 I love the butterflies I get, even when they make me wonder. Today I wish you butterflies.