I was shocked, here was this guy, attractive, funny, not too much baggage everything is moving along nicely until he decides that he wants to spice up our conversation. What makes him think I want to see his penis? He has yet to take me on a date, yet I get an up close and personal view of his most private self. hmmmmm.
So of course after I was able to regain speech and delete the offending member I gave a call out to my girls thinking they would think it strange as well. Surprise, surprise they told me it was pretty normal. In fact they had run across guys who once they had access to their cell number proceeded to do the same. Really!
When did this memo go out? Who had the conference that all these guys secretly attended that says hey, you like a lady, show her your penis, she will love it!!! Guaranteed to get you a date, sext her whether you know her or not, it is so hot. Yeah, they were definitely smoking something. When did it become O.K. to expose yourself to a stranger. Isn't that illegal? Needless to say that I ceased and desisted all communications with him when he required a little quid pro quo. Sorry last time I checked I did not agree to become a amateur porn star.So in all fairness, he had a nice penis, I just did not want to see it before I saw him sitting across from me at a dinner table on a date, hello timing. Not that I would necessarily want a picture of his penis in my phone or email anyway, I am just saying, really? It clearly states in my profile that I am a Christian, I want a long term relationship, nowhere does it say free sex pictures, I love sexting, or show me your penis. I know, I wrote it.
Next guy I meet, again lovely correspondence, quick with the wit, but I could never get a phone call. Just tons of texts so after my last encounter the B.S. antenna is up. So to be fair and not misjudge him I tell him straight out that I am interested in getting to know him however I would like it to remain PG for the time being. Of course He totally agreed, and our "conversations" continued. Since he is a few states over a first date was out of the question for now, but hey I am open to getting to know him. Then I get the text, "you are so sexy, send me a picture of your nipple." What!! How does becoming intimately aware of my nipple help you to get to know me? His response...."I thought we were moving forward? Getting to know each other? These conversations are getting too hard, it is supposed to be pleasurable. why are you being so difficult."
Exact words I kid you not. Since when did getting to know someone, someone you have never met in person, become a peep show? You don't even know what my voice sounds like, we have never shared a meal but you want me to share my body? Or at least images of my body. I am difficult because I have standards? I refuse to be someones peep show. My body is sacred and I don't share it with just anybody.So where do you draw the line? What are the requirements for getting to know someone? I thought it was conversation, a few dates, spending time getting to know each other vertically before you even begin to know them horizontally. When as women did it become O.K. for us to allow men to get to know our bodies while hoping that afterward they would take the time to know our minds? Well I am drawing my lines and they are not changing. So for all the texting men, the men who want quick intimacy, easy porn, and unlimited access your going to have to keep it moving.
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