Back in the Saddle.

     So the time has come to jump back in to the dating pool, get my feet wet, see what is out there, embark on a love journey, O.K.  I am totally running out of metaphors here. Let's just say I am ready for love. I am tired of meaningless flirtations, random relationships, undefined courtships, and unlicensed sex. It is time for a new chapter in my life. Love and possibly, no definitely marriage. I have reached the age of thirty something and I am ready to settle down. I may have made some mistakes in the past, but I am willing to learn from them and move forward into my happily ever after. But first some work. Since nothing that I have done in the  past has seemed to work I am going to seek some advice. Yup I am going to check out every book I can get my hands on and learn whatever I need to learn to get what I want! (Just so you know there are tons of books out there and you can read for the rest of your life!!! I don't have that kind of time, so I just read maybe 30 or so)

  Fast Forward to today, I have done all the soul searching, I have done the spiritual and mental work on myself, I have read the relationship books, wrote in the journals and even allowed Steve Harvey to advise me on how to think like a man. So now what? I have been told that my old way of doing things does not work, that is why I am single, I've been advised that pursuing a man is a no no and that the right man will pursue me, I have read about how to dress, how to think, what to expect, what to do, what to avoid, blah blah blah blah blah to infinity. I am ready to go. Let's do this! This should be easy, I did my research, turned in my homework, got a clean bill of health, and my diploma, I am now officially ready to jump into the thick of things. Of course just because I am ready, there seem to be no eligible men to be found what is a girl to do?

That is right, I am a thirty something, single mom living in a small town where they majority of men are already married, and those that are not are too young, too criminal, too many "baby momma's" or just too not what I want. What to do? Never fear. We live in the age of the internet, you can find almost anything at anytime, anywhere. So I signed up for three months on Match. Why? Honestly my besties had all tried it out and they are in loving, beautiful relationships. So I can do it too. This sounds like a commercial, but I am serious, at least I was serious until I saw that the thousands of men available to you when you live in a city, turns to hundreds, less than a hundred, a handful really of guys when you live in the country.

It is not like I can just up and move so I am going to have to work with what I got. This should be fun.